I’m all about accentuating the positive. I believe that what we focus on increases, so focus on the good. And if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all. Lately I have been reading and hearing a lot about truth, authenticity, and being yourself. Is emphasizing the good in your life while ignoring the bad a positive technique for manifesting more good, or is it denial and dishonesty? Abraham Hicks says to only focus on what you don’t want long enough to get clear about what you do want, then switch the focus to manifesting that. Therapists tell us to talk about our problems to air them out in the open and let them go. The answer is likely a delicate balance between the two, talking about challenges when it could help yourself or others, and holding back when it is just mindless complaining or gossiping. Still, the tendency for people to showcase only the most fabulous aspects of their lives is starting to take a toll on society. In some studies, it was found that the most common emotion people experience when looking at social media is envy. I would argue that if you are experiencing jealousy of friends or acquaintances due to their posts online, maybe it is time to log off the computer and start doing some of the things you wish you could post about. However I do see the benefit of being open about struggles and challenges as well, to create a balanced picture of life. A friend of mine is always open and honest online, some say she is too open. Her response to that is to say, this is me and if you don’t like it you don’t have to read my posts. Fair point. I tend to be more private on social media, not so much because I am trying to keep things a secret, but more because I choose to use a different forum, and for me Facebook isn’t one where I reveal too much. (You have to read this blog to get the juicy stuff.) I also tend to wait until I have learned a lesson or gained some clarity on an issue before writing about it online. But in the interest of full disclosure, and tongue firmly planted in cheek, I give you a few examples of posts I might share, and the part I might not.
When I post: “Join me tomorrow for a fun, energizing flow!”
What I don’t say: Please, I need to make rent. Seriously. I love what I do, but yoga teachers gotta eat. 🙂
When I post: A motivational quote.
What I don’t say: I posted that not as an admonishment to you, but as a reminder to myself.
When I post: “Yummy, raw, vegan, organic salad for dinner!”
What I don’t say: To make up for the fast food I scarfed down in my car at lunch.
When I post: “Awesome morning meditation today!”
What I don’t say: Which was the only calm in the storm that was the rest of my day.
When I post: A picture of my pet with the caption, “So cute!”
What I don’t say: And it’s a good thing, because after cleaning up the mess he made I have a few 4 letter words that I’d use to describe him, and cute isn’t one of them.
When I post: A picture of myself in a challenging yoga pose
What I don’t say: I tried this pose thousands of times before I could do it. Literally. I have taken yoga classes for over 10 years, at least several times a week, often almost every day. Practice and all is coming.
And now you know the rest of the story. Good day.